270 Seconds To A Better Marriage

Here is a three-step approach to a more satisfying marriage:

MORNING

First thing, take 90 seconds to give her the greatest good morning possible: “Good morning. I love you.” And if she’s asleep, you can lower your voice and whisper, “I love you. Have an awesome day.” She’ll hear you anyway.

AFTER WORK

Right when you get home, focus on her for a full 90 seconds. If she’s happy, you go happy; if she’s low, you go low, and make sure you look her in the eyes long enough to discern her eye color. This says, I value you, I need you.

NIGHT

Sometime during the last thirty minutes before bed, take 90 seconds to engage fully with her. Do not talk about children, money, or work. Don’t talk about the past at all. Look at her, stroke her hair, snuggle up to her, tell her you love her.

CONCLUSION

90 seconds in the morning, 90 seconds after work (or any time you’ve been away from her for at least two hours), and 90 seconds at night. That’s how you bond. After seven to ten days, the marriage will change for the positive. Guaranteed.

- by Jim Fannin, reprinted from Esquire, May 2011, p152